The mentality of the Honey Bee and that of the Fly
Identifying, seeking for and building on the good in others rather than focusing on their ills
It is important to look at the mentality of the honeybee and the mentality of the fly, to find out which of these two mentalities you exhibit, and how it affects your relationship with others. Then check if you need to make a change.
The honeybee focuses on the sweet hidden beautiful thing not seen by all. It sucks from it. As a result, it produces substance that is very sweet and useful to all. On the other hand, the fly focuses on rotten things that are scattered on the surface. It eats from them. As a result, it produces dangerous bacteria that are harmful to all.
Honey Bee’s activity
The honey bee goes in search of the sweet nectars hidden inside the flowers. While it tries to locate a flower, even when everywhere is littered with rubish, the honey bee pays no attention to them. When it finds the flowers, it perches on it and goes directly to suck out the sweet juicy nectars. It deposits the nectars in the honey comb, and it forms the honey, the sweetest substance on earth and useful to all.
Fly's Activity
The fly goes in search of rotten things from the garbage. It overlooks all the beautiful things. When it finds the rotten things, it perches on them, pick some up on its feet, carrying lots of bacteria. It peches and defecates on people’s food, leaving behind contaminants. It then transmits the bacteria from its feet and body to the food. It may lay eggs on the food and infect people with diseases and sicknesses.
Lesson:
Like the honey bee, if we can overlook the ills in others but look for the little beautiful things in them which we usually overlook, explore them and build on them, we would produce and spread joy and sweetness that would be cherished, adored and be very useful to all.
Like the fly, if we refuse to notice the beautiful things in others but always focus on their ills, explore and build on them, then, like the fly, we would produce and spread dangerous toxic energy that would negatively impact us and other people around us.
Question:
Looking at my behaviour, especially in my marital relationship, have I been exhibiting the mentality of fly or that of the honeybee? Do I go on finding faults on others but never shown appreciation for the good they do?
Remedy:
If I have been living like the fly and have caused so much pain and hurts to my spouse and other people around me, after reflecting on this analogy, can I repent of my past, dispossess myself of the fly mentality, and immediately embrace and begin to practice the mentality of the honey bee?